Robert Wasson aka "Fat Fairy" (1935-1985): Drag Performer, Chef, and LGBTQ Community Icon

 

Robert Wasson, left with Harvey Milk; right, as "Fat Fairy"

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 Robert Wasson, affectionately known in San Francisco’s queer community as the “Fat Fairy,” was a beloved drag performer, culinary professional, and activist figure during the transformative LGBTQ movements of the 1960s and 1970s. With his self-styled nickname, audacious humor, and signature flair, Wasson became an enduring part of the Bay Area's queer cultural landscape.

Wasson rose to prominence as a regular presence in drag performances and was an active member of both the Court de San Francisco and the Royal Court of Oakland—two cornerstone institutions of queer pageantry and activism. He is remembered for his appearances at community events and his bold participation in street-level politics, including his close friendship with civil rights pioneer Harvey Milk.

Professionally, Wasson was a chef for many years, most notably at the Pall Mall Grill on Haight Street, where he worked during the “Summer of Love” in 1967. Later, he transitioned into catering before settling into a quieter life as an employee at a bookstore in Oakland.

Newspaper account of gravemarker being place 3 1/2 years after death

Tragically, Wasson’s life was cut short during a robbery at the bookstore. When confronted by an armed assailant, he fought back, and was fatally shot in the torso. He died at the scene.

Robert Wasson’s funeral reflected his theatrical spirit and deep impact on the community. Attended by several hundred mourners and carried by eight pallbearers, his elaborate service featured his personal theme song, “If They Could See Me Now.” Per his final wishes, Wasson was interred in full drag regalia, wearing a light gray evening gown. A bottle of Pepsi and a bag of potato chips—his favorite snacks—were placed in his casket. His burial was reported on the evening news. A grave marker with the inscription “They Can See Me Now!” was placed nearly four years after his death.